Words and Feelings That Often Come up in Marriage

Words and Feelings That Often Come up in Marriage Relationships Spouses & Partners Print Using Words for Different Feelings Words and feelings that often come up in marriage By Sheri Stritof Sheri Stritof has written about marriage and relationships for 20 years. Shes the co-author of The Everything Great Marriage Book. Learn about our editorial policy Sheri Stritof Medically reviewed by Medically reviewed by Carly Snyder, MD on February 01, 2020 facebook twitter linkedin Carly Snyder, MD is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist who combines traditional psychiatry with integrative medicine-based treatments.   Learn about our Medical Review Board Carly Snyder, MD on February 01, 2020 Verywell / Nusha Ashjaee More in Relationships Spouses & Partners Marital Problems LGBTQ Violence and Abuse Everyone has moments when they just cant come up with the right word to describe what theyre feeling or trying to say. You might be angry and start sputtering. You may feel overwhelmed and that leaves you speechless. The words are thereâ€"you just cant find them when youre overcome by emotion. Here are some words that describe feelings that frequently crop up in marriages and relationships. You might find the right word here if youre having difficulty expressing yourself. You might not want to consult a list in the heat of the moment, but you can always refer to it if youre trying to write your thoughts down. When Youre Feeling Amorous Amorousâ€"thats a good word right there, isnt it? When youre looking for a word to tell your spouse that youd like to head into the bedroom, to the sofa or even to the hammock, you might say that youre feeling aroused, frisky, intimate, passionate, playful, romantic, seductive, sexy or stimulated. When Youre Feeling Angry The term anger covers a wide scale. You might just be aggravated, agitated, bothered, distressed, disturbed, exasperated, irritated, irked, offended, peeved, provoked or vexed. Then again, something significant or serious may have happened so you feel enraged, furious, incensed, infuriated or outraged.   When Youre Confused   Did she just stay what you think she said? Did she mean it the way it sounded? Youre probably baffled, bewildered, clueless, lost, mixed up, mystified, perplexed, puzzledâ€"or just plain stumped. When Your Back Is to the Wall   When youre accused of some wrongdoing, whether deservedly or not, youll probably feel attacked, blamed,  maybe even cornered. When Youre Scared   Like anger, fright is an emotion that comes in a variety of degrees. You might feel mildly alarmed, anxious, apprehensive, concerned, edgy or nervous.  Or maybe your spouse has just said, Can you sit down? We need to talk. This will most likely bring on a stronger, more visceral reaction and you may feel frantic, paralyzed, petrified or terrified. When Youre Happy   Ah, pleasure. When things are going well and your spouse has just said or done something to light up your world, you might say you feel centered, content, ecstatic, enchanted, elated, excited, exhilarated, fantastic, fulfilled, joyful, jubilant, overjoyed, peaceful, pleased, splendid or thrilled. If the two of you are recovering from a bad spell, you might feel encouraged or optimistic. When Youre Hurt   Hurt covers a spectrum of emotions, too. When your spouse says or does something to hurt you, your feelings can run the gamut from discontent to devastation. You might feel abused, belittled, berated, betrayed, bitter, broken, cheated, condemned, deceived, degraded, humiliated, inadequate, inferior, insignificant, insulted, mistreated, persecuted, rejected, robbed, scorned, small, squashed, stifled, tormented, tortured or wounded.   When Youre Lonely   You can feel lonely in a roomful of people or when youre sitting beside your spouse. Its why you feel lonely in this situation and what happened  to cause your feeling that matters. Maybe you feel abandoned, adrift, alienated, alone, deserted, discarded, disconnected, empty, excluded, forgotten, ignored, incomplete, isolated, invisible, left out, neglected, unneeded, useless, unaccepted, unappreciated or worthless. When You Feel Loved   Hopefully, your spouse makes you feel cherished, needed, pampered, spoiled and treasured.   When You Feel Overwhelmed   Feeling overwhelmed can be good or bad. On the bright side, you may feel amazed, astonished, awestruck, dazed or delighted by something your spouse has done. On the other hand, you may feel ambushed, appalled, disbelieving, horrified, incredulous, overcome, shocked or stunned. When youre overwhelmed not by something that has surprised you but by something that has been going on for a period of time, the weight of the problem might leave you feeling smothered or suffocated. When You Feel Resentful   A lot of things can lead to resentment, but the feeling usually rears its ugly head when you feel shortchanged in some respect. You might say that you feel controlled, judged, manipulated, owned, powerless, repressed, trapped, used, victimized, violated, intimidated or even exploited.   When Youre Sad   Poetry and prose are replete with words to describe sadness. Depending on the degree of your sorrow and what has caused it, you might describe your feeling as blue, bummed, crushed, defeated, dejected, demoralized, destroyed, disappointed, discontented, discouraged, disheartened, disillusioned, dismal, grieving, gloomy, heartbroken, helpless, hopeless, let down or pessimistic. When Youre Sorry   Weve all been there, opening our mouths or taking some action that we instantly regret. You probably feel apologetic, ashamed, guilty, regretful or sheepish â€" or maybe even all these things at once when youve hurt someone you love. When Youre Tired Were not talking about how you feel after a long workday, but rather than feeling that comes over you when youve tried and tried to make things right but to no avail. You might feel burned out, drained, exhausted, fatigued, lifeless, overloaded, stretched and weary. When He Understands Where Youre Coming From   Its a great experience, feeling accepted, complete, listened to and recognized. When Youre Unsure To some extent, these words can go hand-in-hand with confusion. Your spouse has said or done something that youre trying to decipher and figure out. From there, you can decide how to respond. Unsure words come more into play when you think you might understand where your spouse is coming from and youre pretty sure youre not going to like it. Youre probably feeling cautious, guarded, leery, pensive, suspicious, torn and wary. Hopefully, these words will pop into your head the next time you need them, but writing down your favorites wont hurt, either. 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